The Defining Decade

Your 20s are the most exhilarating time of your life. It’s invigorating and exhausting at the same time. Now, at 29, I can say that I’ve experienced a lot in my 20s. I can say that I’ve grown to know what’s best for me. I’ve learned that whatever you go through, grows you. This is your journey. Make the most of it.

I was having a conversation with a 25 year-old friend about life and how so many of us in our 20s are wasting time. We’re under the assumption that this is the time to party hard and get everything out of our system. I know my early 20s was that way. I was slightly out of control. I certainly didn’t have my head on my shoulders like my friend at her age. The difference between us is she decided early on not to let the uncertainty and fear keep her from pursuing her possibilities. She didn’t just live in the now, she balanced and prepared for her future.

Thinking back on my 20s, I wish I would have made better decisions. If you are also a twentysomething feeling like you have no idea what your life is about, you chose the wrong partner or even got placed in the wrong family, I have the perfect book for you to read. The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter – And How To Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay, PhD really changed my outlook on the immediacies of everyday living.

“Inaction breeds fear and doubt. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie, writer and lecturer

“There is a certain terror that goes along with saying, “My life is up to me.” It is scary to realize there’s no magic, you can’t just wait around, no one can really rescue you, and you have to do something. Not knowing what you want to do with your life – or not at least having some ideas about what to do next – is a defense against that terror. It is a resistance to admitting that the possibilities are not endless. It is a way of pretending that now doesn’t matter. Being confused about choices is nothing more than hoping that maybe there is a way to get through life without taking charge.”

Go off, Meg.

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