If you’re familiar with my blog, you are well aware that I change my hairstyle quite often. This past weekend was no different. I’ve been wanting to update the color in my hair for a while now. I finally did it and the results have grown on me. My hair is now a few shades of brown, ombre style. I’ll probably go a little brighter eventually but this is it for now.
The best part of the new videos on Instagram is being able to see live shots from places I could only dream about visiting. In my heart, I am a wanderer. Working hard only to give it all away in rent money has never been an ideal situation for me. I’d much rather save all of my pennies and spend all of it on experience. And everyone knows that traveling is the best teacher If I had all the money in the world, I would get lost around this magnificent world forever and ever. Unfortunately, I can’t right now. I’ve been blessed to have visited Belize, Bahamas, London, Germany and Nigeria. Now, I’ve started saving for my trip to Thailand next year. Yay. But I still daydream about the other places I want to visit, too. In no particular order…
1. Maldives Islands – an isolated oasis of peaceful bliss. About 500 miles from Sri Lanka and Heaven, basically.
I struggled for a while trying to define my blog when deep down, I really didn’t want to conform. It didn’t feel natural. But I thought I needed to have a niche, like everyone else. I thought that to make it in this blogging business, I needed to be an expert at one specific thing. And maybe that is the case for some bloggers. And yes, I’d like to master some things. But the fact is, I am a lifestyle blogger. I blog about…my life, lol. That’s a damn hard thing to define. Some of the bloggers that I find to be the most inspiring are just amazing at creating beautiful things. And that’s what I do. No need to define. It just is.
So anyway. On to technicalities.
If you’ve ever tried to design your site on your own without any prior knowledge of CSS or HTML, you know what kind of HELL it is. I’m somewhat of a perfectionist when a project has my name on it. I’d much rather not put anything out than half ass my own shit. So instead of just tossing stuff on here, I’m pacing myself. Bear with me, y’all!
Quick tutorial of minor changes.
If you’ll take a gander at the menu above my custom header
*Vanna White exaggerated point*, you’ll notice that I added a few tabs. I will primarily be focusing on these topics (if you couldn’t tell from my posts already). I have an extremely difficult time functioning within dysfunction, hence why I created a rubric of sorts for myself. And now…
A preview to what is to come:
-a new weekly (3 days – m/w/f) posting schedule
-new finds and reviews
Keeping it simple, keeping it sweet.
Until then, I’ll still be posting on my other social media accounts. Follow if you dare.
Again, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING MY SHIT!!! See you in a week.
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
4,329 films were submitted to the 2012 Cannes Film Festival. This blog had 22,000 views in 2012. If each view were a film, this blog would power 5 Film Festivals
What an enlightening year. I didn’t post as much as I should have because this has been such an EMOTIONAL journey for me. And I didn’t want to post too many emo things about my life. But I did jot them down in my phone as the feelings came to me.
At first I thought that 2012 was a loss but I really did accomplish a lot this year. Maybe not professionally (which hurts the most) but definitely personally.
While sifting through my 30+ unpublished blog posts, I came across one that I wrote it back in December of 2011. Not sure why I never hit publish. But after reading this post this morning, I just had to share this with you all. Enjoy.
I think I’ve always had in mind that nothing lasts forever. It’s kept me from taking things too personally and getting my feelings hurt. But I eventually did let my guard down and got hurt. But I reminded myself to learn from those experiences. Use them as teachers to guide me forward. To reflect and remember the good times. When you look at it that way, nothing really feels like a loss.
The danger in the relationships we form in life is in thinking that everything is permanent. We’ve all heard the saying, “the only constant thing is change.” Knowing this, I accept all that the universe brings my way in whatever form. I accept that absolutely NOTHING lasts forever. Not people, not marriages, not life. Everything is subject to change. And the quicker we acknowledge that, the easier it will be for us to accept the twists and turns in our lives. And the less hurt we will be by situations in life. Hopefully.
One of the truest quotes I’ve ever heard was concerning seasons. Every year, Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall come. Every year. And each year, each season is uniquely different. Do we ever question the seasons as to why they change? No. They have to. And so do we. Accept that. Sit with the “uncomfortableness” of it because it will make you feel awkward.
I remember one of the first times I attended a service at Destiny. I stayed after for one of the youth chats. We were split into groups with strangers. I don’t remember what we discussed but I remember telling a personal story. One of the girls, noticing my struggle, shared one of her own to comfort me. It touched me SO much, especially coming from a complete stranger. I never interacted with her after that day. I didn’t know her or anyone else in the group but I still felt a connection to her. I felt like that was my “moment” with her.
The moment we realize that life is fleeting, that nothing lasts forever and that we cannot control the future, is when we will start to savor each moment of life we’re given. Stop dwelling on what you don’t have control over.
I cannot waste another day not being happy with every single decision that I choose to make.
Take things one day at a time. Don’t promise me anything in the future. Promise me today. This very moment.
Nothing lasts forever. You live and then you die. That’s it. So live before you die.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON. . .
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part,
or at an inconvenient time, this person will say
or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered.
And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON….
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons
things you must build upon in order to have
a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.