The New Year always presents societal pressures to have your entire existence figured out by end of day one. What a daunting task. And yet, if we do not plan, we inevitably plan to fail. So I took a step in the direction of what some people believe will lead to success.
Exactly one year ago, I quit my job at a law firm without a plan. All I knew was that I wanted a more fulfilling life. I was excited to start a new chapter in my life although I had no idea what that life would resemble. Right now at this very moment, all I can say is THANK YOU to the Most High for giving me strength. It was a challenging year and I am better for it.
“To dare is to do … to fear is to fail.” John Goddard
There once lived a young adventurer named John Goddard. When he was fifteen years old, he decided that he would live his life in an unconventional and unforgettable way. There were many things that he wanted to accomplish so he pulled out a legal pad and created a life list. In this life list, he set some seemingly impossible goals; 127 of them, to be exact. He didn’t want to grow up into the adult that wished they did things in their youth. Now I wouldn’t know about this man had I not been reading The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson so I won’t take the credit.
When it came to dream setting, John didn’t take the easy route. He set goals that were daring. His ‘to do list’ would make any of us cringe. I mean, it takes a bold person to kayak down the Nile River. And that was the first thing he did. Later in life, he was called “the real-life Indiana Jones” by the LA Times. Talk about living a life of fearlessness!
When asked how he was able to hang on to his dreams, he simply replied: “Wonderful role models and setting deadlines. And I never give up on a dream.”
So I was motivated to create my own working life list. This list consists of things I’ve already accomplished (crossed out). I do have a daring spirit and John inspired me to dream bigger. So here goes.
“Prayers are prophesies. They are the best predictors of your spiritual future. Who you become is determined by how you pray. Ultimately, the transcript of your prayers becomes the script of your life.” The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson
In 2005, I was 20 years old. I moved off campus and into my own apartment – all 602 square feet of it. I had no living room set, no cable, but it was my cozy home. As the frigid months approached, I realized that I was in way over my head. At the time, I was working part-time at a daycare making $7.25 an hour. I was a full-time college student. I had $1000 a month in bills to pay. I fell into a deep depression that year. Routinely, I would have a pastor friend of mine wake up at 6am and pray for me before I went in to work. Looking back, I know that it was only God that got me through that year.
The journey is favorably underway. Here I am, 31 days since the start of my internship with Caren West PR and whoa, have I learned a great deal so far. From day one, I was literally thrown in sans life vest into the vastness of PR life. I’m not sure who told us that PR was all parties and beer but it is not. At least not everyday. Public relations is the business of people. We are the managers. We are damage control. We are the informants. In this role, we help businesses shine. And from reading my blog, you’re already aware that helping people shine their light is what I love.
When most little girls and boys were playing with baby dolls and action figures, I was busy entertaining myself with my board game called The Game of LIFE. Man, I wanted to be a grown up so bad that I was okay settling with the toy version of adulthood. Should I go to college or straight to work? Should I have a family of four or travel the world? Decisions. Decisions. Decisions. And surely, just like in real life, your choices will be affected by the path you choose. That’s just life.
Our real lives are very much like The Game of LIFE, isn’t it? Brimming with twists and turns and uncertainty. Change is indeed scary, but it is necessary for growth.
So you quit your day job for your daydream and now your daydream is turning into a nightmare. Or something like that. Well, don’t panic. If you, like me, still feel strongly about your decision to leave a position, remember why you did it and keep on believing.
I’ll admit, today wasn’t the most inspiring of days but I always come across some hopeful reads that lift my spirits. According to Forbes, 2014 is the year for women entrepreneurs. That’s exciting and encouraging because we’re all in the same boat: shifting our dreams into fruition. Glass ceiling what?! Tuh.
So before that daydream of yours turns into a full-on nightmare, try these four things.
Lets face it: if a man must live with a woman, he’s going to want a space to call his own. A place of escape from the nagging and demands of doing humdrum tasks. He would escape to the infamous man cave. On the radio this morning, they were discussing how men desire this space to do manly things. Just as men crave having a space of their own away from their spouses, so do women.
Over the weekend, I attended the event of my friend Katrice (My Vicarious Life). In an effort to start the conversation about living our best lives, Katrice had a panel of three women who she deemed successful. They shared with us their journey and left us with wonderful words of encouragement on pursuing our dreams.
Kudos to Katrice and to a successful event!
12 months. 52 weeks. 365 days. 8,760 hours. 525,600 minutes. 3,153,600 seconds.
- more love.
- more laughter.
- more gratitude.
- more honesty.
- more faith.
- more hard work.
- more consistency.
- more experiences.
- more intimacy.
- more clarity.
- more wine.
Write the vision, make it plain.