Make time for yourself

I hate being bored. I’d prefer busy work over being bored because at least the time would fly by. Something about being still that equal total boredom for me. And maybe it’s because I don’t have a television or computer to occupy my time right now but the thought of just being still just freaks me out. I’d rather sleep for fear of going mad.

In the book Eat, Pray, Love, the author retells the stories of her time abroad in Italy. She experienced what was unheard of in America: “Il Dolce Far Niente” which translates to mean the art of doing nothing. Reading that the Italian people actually planned days of nothingness, I was left a little perplexed. Who does that? Who has time to waste? And then I remembered my trip to Belize and how easily I forgot how much more I was at peace.

Belize 2009

 My one week in Belize left me feeling like I just spent 500 hours at the spa. How reassuring to be able to wake up each morning and not dread going to work. How calming would it be to be able to sit down each morning and enjoy breakfast and not check your email while rushing out of the door. How amazing is it to be able to appreciate sunrises and sunsets. How easy is it to take the little things for granted because we are busy. Too busy for our own selves.

“Stand firm. It’s funny how easily time alone turns into something else—but remember, when it comes to solitude, two is a crowd.”

A good friend of mine took a week-long trip to Dubai BY HERSELF. Talk about JEALOUS. I was green with envy! Especially after getting the play by play of pictures. But that is one thing I admire about her the most: her ability to take time out for herself and be perfectly ok alone. That is one thing I have not mastered yet.

After reading this article about solitude, it’s becoming clear how important it is to have time alone. Time to reflect and meditate. Time to enjoy doing nothing. My friend has inspired me to put into desire into action: to take one solo trip next year. Somewhere where I do not know anyone. Time for myself to really think about the things I put away in the back of my mind on a daily basis. Time to embrace solidarity.

Hopefully taking time out to be alone will be something I can continue to do throughout my lifetime. Whether it is taking a day off to go to the spa or just staying at home and resting. And also whatever works for you. Take time to do what you like to do but never have time to do. But make sure that it is YOU time. Cut yourself some slack. You deserve it. 🙂

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  1. I was forced to spend Christmas by myself one year. At first, it was scary. After a while, it was pure relaxation, and the silence, except the Christmas music, was soothing to the soul. That Christmas year is one of my favorites.

    1. I spent thanksgiving, christmas and new years alone last year and it was one of the lowest times of my life. Looking back I think it was because of the hype of not being alone on holidays and my fear of boredom lol.
      I’m glad you’ve embraced your solitude 🙂

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