One of the most vivid memories of my early 20s was going out for drinks with friends and somehow finding myself dry-humping a wall. Ah yes, those were the days. But in a month, I will be thirty and I don’t know how. How did I get here? First of all, thanks God. But for real though? Just the other day, I was 18 without a care in the world. At 25, I was still turning up like you wouldn’t believe. Now? I can’t wait to get home on Friday and sleep off all of the exhaustion from the week. A drink? My stomach can’t take the thought.
The following advice in this post is almost all a result of my first hand experiences. Everything that I’ve gone through in my 20s, has molded me into the woman I am today. Of course I’ve had many regrets that I later took back because without the experience, I would not have gotten the lesson. I’m still learning the lessons. But if I could share with you what I wish someone would’ve shared with me, this is what I would say.
If you’ve been blogging for 5 or more years like myself, you’ve probably reached the point where you want to get into the nitty-gritty of blogging. At this point, you know all of the basics and you want to learn the harder stuff. If you’re anything like me, the harder stuff include technical topics like SEO, HTML, ad campaigns and analytics.
On Friday, I rushed home, ready to take a post work nap, exhausted from the day. I had just gotten a really bad cold and wanted nothing more than to start over. As I pulled up to the driveway, I noticed the front door was wide open. Honestly, I didn’t think too much of it because it happened twice before due to the wind. But I called my mother anyway, inquiring as to who was forgetful enough to do it this time. Never in a million years did I expect to see what I saw next.
I took these shots in December, thinking I was going to write something about restarting for the New Year. That’s not really what I want to write about at all. I want to talk about winning.
The New Year always presents societal pressures to have your entire existence figured out by end of day one. What a daunting task. And yet, if we do not plan, we inevitably plan to fail. So I took a step in the direction of what some people believe will lead to success.
How many times have you sat down to complete a task and ended up watching television instead? The next thing you knew, your entire day was gone and you hadn’t gotten any work done. Just me?
Exactly one year ago, I quit my job at a law firm without a plan. All I knew was that I wanted a more fulfilling life. I was excited to start a new chapter in my life although I had no idea what that life would resemble. Right now at this very moment, all I can say is THANK YOU to the Most High for giving me strength. It was a challenging year and I am better for it.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ― Steve Maraboli
2014 has been a challenging and painful year for a lot of people, myself included. Sometimes, the burdens and responsibilities of life can feel like it’s too much to bear. Whether you’ve been experiencing emotional pain or heartbreak, it’s time to remember that forgiving yourself is of utmost importance. Now, I’m no professional but I know a thing or two about how to heal after hurtful situations. The power to forgive is within us and for us. If forgiveness is something that you struggle with, here’s a practical guide to forgiving yourself.
“To dare is to do … to fear is to fail.” John Goddard
There once lived a young adventurer named John Goddard. When he was fifteen years old, he decided that he would live his life in an unconventional and unforgettable way. There were many things that he wanted to accomplish so he pulled out a legal pad and created a life list. In this life list, he set some seemingly impossible goals; 127 of them, to be exact. He didn’t want to grow up into the adult that wished they did things in their youth. Now I wouldn’t know about this man had I not been reading The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson so I won’t take the credit.
When it came to dream setting, John didn’t take the easy route. He set goals that were daring. His ‘to do list’ would make any of us cringe. I mean, it takes a bold person to kayak down the Nile River. And that was the first thing he did. Later in life, he was called “the real-life Indiana Jones” by the LA Times. Talk about living a life of fearlessness!
When asked how he was able to hang on to his dreams, he simply replied: “Wonderful role models and setting deadlines. And I never give up on a dream.”
So I was motivated to create my own working life list. This list consists of things I’ve already accomplished (crossed out). I do have a daring spirit and John inspired me to dream bigger. So here goes.
The lights grew dim as wristbands began to illuminate the arena. A voice low, yet robust filled the atmosphere. Women excitedly cheered on as they recognized the familiar voice speaking. I could barely hear what she was reciting over the roaring applause. And then, like a vision of a burning sun, she rose from within the stage. We all lost our minds! It took me a second to realize that I was watching Oprah Gail Winfrey walk on the stage. Tears began to well in my eyes as it hit me: I was seeing Oprah in the flesh.