April is always a month of reflection for me because it’s my birth month. And consequently, I usually disappear the most during this month. Since I usually don’t discuss what I do all day, I’ve decided to publicly share my daily list of things that have occurred each day that I’m grateful for.
There is no shortage of women who slay in all different industries but the creatives are my favorite. Today, I’m sharing some fairly new (to me) creative women I’ve followed online with you all. If you didn’t know, now you know.
It is day twenty of the new year and also my third year of being a freelancer. I survived! There were many times I really didn’t think I would make it. Things got pretty crazy after quitting my job in 2013. There have been many ups and downs and lessons learned but I’m so grateful for being on this journey. But real talk, you really need a routine as a freelancer. A routine that you can be devoted to following. Without a routine, you are like a chicken with its head cut off – directionless! I recently implemented a new daily routine and wanted to share it with you. This is brand-spanking new for me so yes, I will slip up and that’s okay. So if you’re interested in freelancing or are a creative without a routine, get into this.
Do you remember that one time in fifth grade when you had to read your fiction novel in front of your entire class? Well, maybe it wasn’t a fiction novel. Whatever it was, do you remember how nervous you were? If you have a fear of public speaking, you probably recall those moments from childhood and carried them into adulthood. The fear of failure from the past has lead to perfectionism in your adult life. You know that has to stop, right? Here’s why it’s imperative for you to resist the need to be perfect.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Oscar Wilde
If you’re unfamiliar with Brene Brown, I need you need to stop what you’re doing and check her out now. She is most famous for her talks on vulnerability, courage, authenticity and shame. Ok, now come back. Your life is changed, right?? Brene’s teachings are everything and more. Put her, Elizabeth Gilbert and Oprah Winfrey together, and they are my Holy Trinity on all things authentic.
What Brene understands is that to be shamelessly authentic, we must choose it. She says, “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”
Authenticity demands wholehearted living and loving – even when it’s hard, even when we’re wrestling with the shame and fear of not being good enough, and especially when the joy is so intense that we’re afraid to let ourselves feel it. Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our lives. – The Gifts of Imperfection, p. 50
Being shamelessly authentic involves a lot of introspective evaluation. With all that that said, I want to share with you five ways you can be shamelessly authentic right now.
“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
A few weeks ago, I was in New York for a job interview. That’s not information I’m willing to divulge because, what if. What if I start telling everyone who asks about the position and then I don’t get it? Did I jinx myself by speaking too soon? Although I do believe in keeping some things to yourself, other times, sharing the journey can make the desired outcome more real. I mean, the only real reason I didn’t want to discuss it is because of uncertainty. But as I’m reading The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss, I’m realizing how much fear of the unknown is just an excuse not to live our best lives.
“Having faith often means doing what others see as crazy. Something is wrong when our lives make sense to unbelievers.” Francis Chan
“And if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?” – Unknown
I was hesitant to write a post about relationships (again) because it’s not my favorite thing to discuss, especially not on this space. I pride myself on being transparent so I knew that if I did discuss it, I’d have to tell my truth, despite what someone else might say or how they might feel.
And the truth is, I thought I lost. I was embarrassed by this perceived loss. I didn’t think it had to end but..
Have you ever gotten played so much that you thought maybe you had a problem? Maybe you weren’t funny enough or attractive enough or talented enough. Maybe that’s why time and time again, you’ve received nothing but rejection?