I realized the other day how strong women really are.

Imagine it: we give birth, we raise kids, we cook, we clean, we work, we stay when the love has left, we love, we nurture, we withstand abuse, we feel…period. Yet and still, [some] men have the AUDACITY to continue to mistreat us.

I may offend some men [and women]. Please, if you don’t fall into this category, don’t be offended. But dont ignore what your brothers are doing. If you are a woman and don’t feel affected by this post, that’s fine. Not all women are strong. At least they don’t know it yet.


I’ve been reading a lot of angry tweets from men lately and they’ve become a bit disheartening. The cause of their anger: women who are whores/sluts/bitches/hoes, etc. They [women] dont value themselves because they love men that don’t love them and that cheat on them. My thing is, how is it that you can sleep with the very women that you dawg out? You say she’s a bitch, she’s a hoe, yet you inseminate her. You impregnante her (condoms much?). You pass your filthy STDs to her (careless much?). You have your way with her. Why? My brothers, why don’t you just leave her alone? If she causes so much trouble and is no good, how about follow your own advice and stop messing with her JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN? Find quality women and call it a day. No need for the name calling back and forth. It becomes so disheartening to see how much we hate each other and how we display this hate.

I really had to think about what could possibly be the reasoning behind such hate. I came up with one word: INSECURITY.

Anger is a manifestation of a deeper issue… and that, for me, is based on insecurity, self-esteem and loneliness.
Naomi Campbell

Let’s be clear: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH SEX. This may sound like the unChristian-like thing to say but I do not preach abstinence. I encourage SAFETY. A woman who enjoys sex is not a hoe. Sex coupled with true intimacy is a beautiful thing, especially when shared with someone you love. Do women AND men go out on sexacapes and act careless? Yes. But enjoying sex and loving your sexuality should not label you a whore.

Now back to these insecure men…excuse me…boys.

I’ve met a lot of dudes in my life and I’ve noticed that when they are uncomfortable, unsure and insecure about something, they lie, cheat, laugh, or boost their own egos. Anything to make them feel better. It’s such a sad trait that I sincerely hope goes away with age and a good dose of humility.

What purpose does it serve for you to bash a woman because she loves sex just as much as you? Tell the whole story. Something went wrong. Why else would you be calling her names? If it was all good, you’d still be with her having a good time.

To the good men out there who unfortunately got burned by an equally insecure woman who chose to use her sex as an escape from reality, I’m sorry. But that does not give you the right to be hypocritical about what you’re both choosing to do. NEITHER PARTIES.

One of my goals in life is to be able to change how young girls view themselves so that they will not have to be the victim of some mans vulgar depiction of women. I want young girls to understand who they are so that they won’t have to fall for anyone who doesn’t give a damn about them or their worth. I’ve been there. I know what it feels like to yearn for love in wrong peole and I DO NOT want another young girl to grow up looking in the wrong direction.

You are beautiful. You are strong. You are not what they say you are. Clearly, they’re the ones talking about it. Don’t sweat it.